As each year comes to a close, many couples feel an understandable pull toward starting fresh. New calendars invite new intentions. Yet the most meaningful growth in relationships doesn’t come from wiping the slate clean. It comes from carrying forward what you’ve learned, together. This past year likely asked something of your relationship. Perhaps you...
As a couples therapist, I see a huge uptick in requests for couples therapy around big political events, especially around elections. We’re all used to the idea that political conversations can erupt into big fights with family, friends, coworkers, and neighbors but many people are surprised when they can’t talk to their own spouse/partner about...
You don’t always have to agree with your partner to show respect and care. Validation is about seeing and acknowledging another person’s feelings, even if you don’t feel the same way. For example: “I get why you’d be upset about that.” “That makes a lot of sense.” “I can see why you feel that way.”...
You know those ‘perfect couples’ you see on social media? They’re lying. Underneath the perfect online appearance are many arguments and passive-aggressive comments to get on the same page (at least long enough to appear perfect, haha!). Problem-solving is one of the toughest challenges for most couples. But there’s no way to avoid this important...
Ever get that feeling that a normal conversation just became an argument in the blink of an eye? It’s like, one moment you’re driving down the road fully in control of your car and the next you’ve found yourself in a deep ditch with no idea how you landed there! To be clear, EVERY relationship...
This is not an easy question and totally depends on the specific dynamics of your marriage or long-term relationship. Be sure to keep this in mind when applying these tips! Times to Share If you are in an abusive relationship, sharing the problems you’re facing can very well help keep you, as well as your...
Whether it’s you who usually cries, or your partner, this can be frustrating, confusing, annoying, or even maddening. Especially if you’re having a relationship conversation that’s going perfectly fine and no argument has broken out. But there are reasonable explanations for this phenomenon. Here are just some. HSP-ness For one, if you tend to end...
As you know, communication in couple relationships can be very hard at times! Many couples who end up in couples therapy report this to be their biggest challenge. For every couple, there is a difference between what one partner says and what the other partner hears. This “gap” in communication may be big or small,...
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