(Relationship) Death By a Thousand Cuts – Part 1: The Death ☠
It’s the small arguments, unkept promises, and lack of attention that kill a relationship over time.
Stop Weaponizing Therapy
What is “weaponizing therapy?” It’s the idea of a person using their participation in mental health therapy, individual or couples therapy, against another person as a power play. This can be done to “win” arguments or appear psychologically superior. For instance… Jane Doe goes to individual therapy every week and then comes home and tells […]
Should I Share My Relationship Problems with Family and Friends?
This is not an easy question and totally depends on the specific dynamics of your marriage or long-term relationship. Be sure to keep this in mind when applying these tips! Times to Share If you are in an abusive relationship, sharing the problems you’re facing can very well help keep you, as well as your […]
Why Does One of Us Cry Every Time We Have a Relationship Conversation?
Whether it’s you who usually cries, or your partner, this can be frustrating, confusing, annoying, or even maddening. Especially if you’re having a relationship conversation that’s going perfectly fine and no argument has broken out. But there are reasonable explanations for this phenomenon. Here are just some. HSP-ness For one, if you tend to end […]
5 Ways Couples Therapy Can Help AFTER You’ve Already Separated
Separation is a heavy decision, often riddled with raw emotions and a strong urge to move forward quickly. But before that final step of divorce, consider couples therapy. Yes, therapy even after you’ve separated. It might surprise you, but many couples seek therapy even after they’ve separated. On rare occasion, I’ve seen couples come to […]
Post-Session Rituals for Couples Therapy
What’s a Post-Session Ritual? It’s a behavior that you make into a habit that you’ll do after each of your therapy sessions. Why Do It? Because it can help you and your partner transition out of your therapy session and into the rest of your day. It’s especially useful because it can help let go […]
Benefits of Virtual Couples Therapy
Virtual couples therapy is a great option for couples with relationship problems and quickly becoming a popular choice over traditional in-office couples therapy. Virtual couples therapy can even offer unique benefits over traditional in-person therapy! Here are some of the key advantages plus ways to make it work best. Higher Quality Care If you know […]
When Couples Therapy Isn’t the Right Fit For Your Relationship
Couples therapy can be a powerful tool for strengthening a relationship, but it’s not a one-size-fits-all solution. There are situations where couples therapy might not be the most productive course of action. Here are some signs that you might be better off waiting on, or altogether skipping, couples counseling: Unwillingness to Participate Therapy requires a […]
My Therapist Fell Asleep During Our Session! (And Other Reasons You May Have Been Burned by Therapy): Part II
Now that you’ve read Part I on being burned by therapy… Here are the common reasons I’ve heard from clients over the years about being burned by therapy. Obviously, this list can’t possibly cover EVERY reason someone may have been burned by therapy (and therefore may not represent your own experiences). This is simply based […]
My Therapist Fell Asleep During Our Session! (And Other Reasons You May Have Been Burned by Therapy): Part I
I hear it all the time. Story after story from folks who contact me because they need therapy help but are super hesitant to move forward and schedule a first session – let alone several sessions after that (assuming we “gel”) because they’ve been burned by a past therapist. With nearly 15 years under my […]