I hear it all the time. Story after story from folks who contact me because they need therapy help but are super hesitant to move forward and schedule a first session – let alone several sessions after that (assuming we “gel”) because they’ve been burned by a past therapist. With many years of experience helping...
As much as we may all wish that it didn’t happen, on any given day someone in a romantic relationship or marriage is cheating on their partner. We know that this is a common phenomenon for both unmarried and married couples. But is there any merit to the old saying “once a cheater, always a...
As you well know, couples divorce for all sorts of reasons. Specific reasons for divorce tend to be as unique and individual as the couple themselves. However, we know from recent self-report research of divorced couples that there are common ones that typically lead to divorce in the U.S. Some of the top marital researchers came...
As you know, communication in couple relationships can be very hard at times! Many couples who end up in couples therapy report this to be their biggest challenge. For every couple, there is a difference between what one partner says and what the other partner hears. This “gap” in communication may be big or small,...
I often get asked the same questions about the Prepare-Enrich program. Here are answers for the most frequently asked ones. I'll preface this by stating that I strongly believe in the program and the science on which it is based. By asking my couples directly about the value of, I've found that every couple that...
One partner is adamant about starting couples counseling while the other is against it. This is super common! Handling this depends on the underlying reason behind the resistance to couples therapy. The most common ones I’ve seen fall into 3 categories. Lack of Knowledge One common reason for not wanting to attend couples counseling is...
Unsure what to expect for your very first session in couples therapy? Not to worry…I’ve got you covered! If you’re a bit nervous about session number one, that’s perfectly normal. And very understandable. After all, it’s not every day that someone asks you and your partner to sit down in front of a perfect stranger...
It’s true. Sometimes therapy can be a royal pain in the ass! There are times when it can feel frustrating, painful, slow, and uncertain. There are times when you'll feel like you're traveling through new terrain but unsure where it'll lead. There are even times when you'll find any excuse to not go - any...
It’s not always easy to keep stay positive post-divorce. But, if you have children, it’s worth making the extra effort to do so. The good news is that by doing so both you and your children will be better off for it. Fake It Until You Feel It Keeping up an image of strength and...
Couples therapy works best when you and your partner each begin the process ready to “look in the mirror." People often contact me eager and ready to begin couples therapy in order to change their relationship for the better! Even over the phone or through email, I can hear that many of these people are...
